This instalment of The New Parent blog series features Milli Fox, owner of Junior Foxes ring slings (which you can rent from us!). Milli is an online influencer and shares inspiration for mindful mom entrepreneurs in her Facebook group Mindful Mompreneur Mixer with Milli Fox.
Occupation/Role in Life:
My most recent title is the owner of Junior Foxes ring slings, but I also have a background as a Doula and nutritionist.
What was the most unexpected (or shocking?) thing about your first year as a new parent?
The most unexpected thing for me in the first year of parenthood was how hard it is to actually ask for help. It’s such a struggle between feeling like you can handle it all and admitting that you do need help. It may not be in the day to day that you feel it, but you will feel it in the long term if you don’t pony up and ask for help.
What is/was the most valuable resource for you in your first year of parenting?
The most valuable resource for me in my first year of parenting was my doula and lactation consultant. She also happens to be a friend and mentor, so I was lucky enough to be able to text her whenever I needed to. It also helped that she has three kids of her own and has been a nurse for 20 years. So basically finding someone you trust who’s been through it before.
Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give if you could go back in time and talk to your pre-baby self? Or what might you do differently if/when you have more children?
If I could go back in time, I would give myself more grace emotionally. I had no idea the emotional weight being a parent would hold. Especially with it being a 24/7 job with no breaks—even when you’re on a break. I would also tell myself to trust my own intuition as much as possible and to not overload myself with advice and information. The more I read the less sure I was. I would try to believe in myself and to keep my head out of the books and off Google.